If writing is part of what you do or want to do, calling yourself a “writer” isn’t as simple as putting pen to paper or fingers to keyboard, now is it?
A big writing project I’m working on (more soon) is reminding me viscerally of this: Writing is hard, and hard work. You know this, so I won’t waste a post telling you things you already know. Instead, I want to tell you my unabashed truths about what it takes to make writing part of what you do and who you are instead of an accidental task on your list.
1. Set Aside Time
Some people thrive on a regular schedule or time of day. I don’t, but I DO take time each and every day that’s dedicated to writing, regardless of what happens (see below).
You make the time to do things that matter, period. That sometimes means sacrificing other things. I don’t watch much TV. I stay up later and get up earlier. I’ve skipped dinner with friends because of deadlines, because writing requires time that simply doesn’t take to shortcuts.
2. Practice the Discipline, Not Just the Results
The process of writing isn’t always about the finished product. Sometimes, it’s about the process of writing, which can be everything from capturing ideas to kicking around a few drafts, to actually *reading* instead of writing.
All of those are part of the discipline of being a writer. Think of it more like immersing yourself in the written word, somehow, in a dedicated fashion.
3. Don’t Quit When It’s Hard
Sometimes, the words won’t come. What separates the Writers from the accidentals is that they gut through these moments, even when they suck. Julien wrote 1,000 words a day even when it wasn’t easy, and even when they might not have been particularly perfect.
Write blog post titles. Write random paragraphs of words. Write private thoughts in a journal or comments on a blog. Write strings of nonsense as your thoughts look for purchase. But get. Words. Out. Explore language and the hard ruts suddenly get shallower and shorter.
4. Stockpile Words
When the words flow, keep writing. That means shoving around other appointments sometimes so that you stay uninterrupted (yes, I’ve done this. Often.).
If you’re in a mode where writing is coming easily and fully, harness it, and harness it now. Even prolific writers get writer’s block, and if you embrace the feasts when they happen, the famines won’t derail you so much.
5. Don’t Mistake Thinking Aloud for Writing
Clever turns of phrase are just that. Meandering streams of consciousness can be cathartic. Expressing what you know can occasionally be useful. But these aren’t always captivating prose.
Writing is about connecting thoughts, understanding when simple language is best, and conveying ideas through words. That takes a level of humility and restraint, ย the ability forego wit in favor of clarity, and ruthless editing.
6. Be Accountable to Something
Friends, a book deadline, a regular blog posting schedule. Something that gives you a sense of expectation and urgency. Something that stings a little when you miss it.
And when you screw that up, like I did recently with my blog schedule, don’t wallow and use that to give yourself permission to slack. Dust off, and back in the saddle, cowboy.
7. Learn To Use Tools
When I was a kid, if I didn’t know what a word meant, I asked my mom. Her response was always and forevermore: Look it up.
I had to lug out the big Miriam Webster or OED (ouch), but we’ve now got nifty things like dictionary.com and thesaurus.com. We have smarties like Grammar Girl to keep us on the straight and narrow. We still have classics like Strunk and White. Use them. Words are the raw material for sculpting ideas, so the more diverse your arsenal, the better your chance of finding just the ones you need.
8. Realize It’s Not About You
So, listen. We all write “for ourselves”. But if you hope to make a living in any way related to your writing – be it a blog or a book or articles in a business magazine – get over it. You’re not writing simply for the art, you’re writing for an audience.
And until you check your ego at the door and start understand who you’re communicating with and how best to reach them, you’re writing for sport. Which is perfectly fine and acceptable, but it’s the rare, serendipitous writer that can muse in a self-centered bubble and keep the attention (and a paycheck) for very long.
What Are You Waiting For?
Some of you will think to yourselves or comment here that you don’t do things this way. That you prefer to write when you feel like it, when you’re inspired, to explore your innermost thoughts and feelings. And I say fantastic! Go for it. But that’s writing as a hobby, not a vocation. And there’s a difference.
I don’t happen to believe that someone is or isn’t a writer. Some may have more raw, natural talent to work with perhaps, just like anything else, but good writing is honed.
If your aspiration is to have writing be part of what you do and do well, it requires as much devotion as you would give to any other aspect of your professional development. You spend ridiculous money and time on conferences or seminars to learn marketing skills or sharpen coding chops. If you want your writing to be professionally respected and recognized, the tough love is that you have to invest in this, too.
Quit saying you’re not a writer and be one. You earn that badge by writing. Now, off with you. I’m sure you have some words knocking around in there somewhere.
In her book “I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was,” Barbara Sher made this really wonderful point about people in particular who would like to write, or paint, or whatever-it-is. I wish I had it in front of me, but the crux of the idea is that we get it in our heads that to “be a writer” we have to quit our full time jobs and run off to an enclave or writers’ colony upstate in order to do so. Sher points out that, really, you can just go home after work this afternoon and write a poem (or an essay if you’re the essay type like I am).
You post here dead-on describes the process I use to write consistently (both when I’m working on books and when I’m creating content for StayOutofSchool.com), but I thought it might be fun to throw in the polar opposite notion, since sometimes it’s much harder to get to step 1, Pick Up Your Pen than to get in the ideal groove you’ve described here.
Glad we’re all on the same page. Makes me feel like I’m doin’ something right! (….or ‘write.’ ahem. punny.)
.-= Elizabeth King´s last blog ..The Achievement Dilemma =-.
Boy, this is so true, Elizabeth. The old perfectionism bug has hit so many people. One of the best exercises I’ve found, is to just take a piece of paper and start writing whatever comes into my mind. Set a time limit of 10 minutes and keep writing until the timer goes off.
Some of my best ideas have come this way… by just getting started.
.-= John Richardson´s last blog ..Fascinating Test =-.
In her book “I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was,” Barbara Sher made this really wonderful point about people in particular who would like to write, or paint, or whatever-it-is. I wish I had it in front of me, but the crux of the idea is that we get it in our heads that to “be a writer” we have to quit our full time jobs and run off to an enclave or writers’ colony upstate in order to do so. Sher points out that, really, you can just go home after work this afternoon and write a poem (or an essay if you’re the essay type like I am).
You post here dead-on describes the process I use to write consistently (both when I’m working on books and when I’m creating content for StayOutofSchool.com), but I thought it might be fun to throw in the polar opposite notion, since sometimes it’s much harder to get to step 1, Pick Up Your Pen than to get in the ideal groove you’ve described here.
Glad we’re all on the same page. Makes me feel like I’m doin’ something right! (….or ‘write.’ ahem. punny.)
.-= Elizabeth King´s last blog ..The Achievement Dilemma =-.
Boy, this is so true, Elizabeth. The old perfectionism bug has hit so many people. One of the best exercises I’ve found, is to just take a piece of paper and start writing whatever comes into my mind. Set a time limit of 10 minutes and keep writing until the timer goes off.
Some of my best ideas have come this way… by just getting started.
.-= John Richardson´s last blog ..Fascinating Test =-.
Great post, Amber. I’ve been “someone who writes” for a number of years – yet wouldn’t call myself a “writer”, per se. I believe part of that distinction is indicated in your piece: Taking the time to write on a consistent basis.
Steven King created an excellent book a number of years back called “On Writing.” One of the memorable lines from it was when he was responding to the oft-asked question, “How do I become a writer?” Mr. King quipped that the ultra super secret to becoming a writer…. is to write ๐
Thanks for the great post!
Ron Lippitt
Great post, Amber. I’ve been “someone who writes” for a number of years – yet wouldn’t call myself a “writer”, per se. I believe part of that distinction is indicated in your piece: Taking the time to write on a consistent basis.
Steven King created an excellent book a number of years back called “On Writing.” One of the memorable lines from it was when he was responding to the oft-asked question, “How do I become a writer?” Mr. King quipped that the ultra super secret to becoming a writer…. is to write ๐
Thanks for the great post!
Ron Lippitt
Great post. I’ve recently the process of “I’m writing for me”, but the more I do it, the more I love it. And I truly recognize it as a craft. I’ve started calling myself a blogger as if I won’t have to apply the same standards as a writer. But the bottom line is I want to write. Period.
And I also loved Stephen King’s book On Writing. He is one of my writing heroes!
.-= Fadra Nally´s last blog ..How I Spent My Summer Vacation =-.
Great post. I’ve recently the process of “I’m writing for me”, but the more I do it, the more I love it. And I truly recognize it as a craft. I’ve started calling myself a blogger as if I won’t have to apply the same standards as a writer. But the bottom line is I want to write. Period.
And I also loved Stephen King’s book On Writing. He is one of my writing heroes!
.-= Fadra Nally´s last blog ..How I Spent My Summer Vacation =-.
Fantastic points, Amber! Loved every one of them.
The one I struggle with the most is number three. I haven’t ever “quit” being a writer but I know I have frequently let fear and challenge derail me. When the writing is hard (which is often) it is tempting to put it off. Procrastination is always easy. I’ve had long months pass when I felt like I could not claim the title of “writer” because I wasn’t really writing.
Thankfully, when the passion for writing is deep in the blood, the page keeps calling us back, again and again. I haven’t quit. I AM a writer. And every day I work at building my resolve and commitment. When it comes to writing it is vital to be stubborn and bull-headed. Never give up, never surrender.
.-= Rebecca Laffar-Smith´s last blog ..Creating Maps to Outline Your Novelโs Plot =-.
Fantastic points, Amber! Loved every one of them.
The one I struggle with the most is number three. I haven’t ever “quit” being a writer but I know I have frequently let fear and challenge derail me. When the writing is hard (which is often) it is tempting to put it off. Procrastination is always easy. I’ve had long months pass when I felt like I could not claim the title of “writer” because I wasn’t really writing.
Thankfully, when the passion for writing is deep in the blood, the page keeps calling us back, again and again. I haven’t quit. I AM a writer. And every day I work at building my resolve and commitment. When it comes to writing it is vital to be stubborn and bull-headed. Never give up, never surrender.
.-= Rebecca Laffar-Smith´s last blog ..Creating Maps to Outline Your Novelโs Plot =-.
3 days past my self-imposed blog deadline now…thanks for the swift kick in the arse;)
.-= Beth Coetzee´s last blog ..A Sense of Place =-.
3 days past my self-imposed blog deadline now…thanks for the swift kick in the arse;)
.-= Beth Coetzee´s last blog ..A Sense of Place =-.
All I can really say right now is thank you. This is validating, motivating, and inspiring.
All I can really say right now is thank you. This is validating, motivating, and inspiring.
it takes a lot of discipline!
.-= Jim Gray´s last blog ..Batman Makeover at 330PM =-.
it takes a lot of discipline!
.-= Jim Gray´s last blog ..Batman Makeover at 330PM =-.
This is a good post, with one pet peeve I can’t left unsaid…
Writers of the world, can we PLEASE stop using the cliche “aspiring writer”? Puh-leeeeze? The only people who are aspiring to write are people who have never written a single word before. If you write, you are a writer. There’s no aspirations about it. So just call yourself a writer.
If you wanted to be more specific, I suppose you can say “aspiring *professional* writer,” but that’s clunky. Professional writer-in-training? Writing hobbyist with bigger plans?
I don’t want to detract from your main points, because this is a quality post. But surely we’re good enough with words that we can invent another term for “aspiring writer.”
Right?
I thought this was a very interesting comment. Never in my life I would have called myself a writer. I would never even call myself an aspiring writer. Because I really never even liked writing.
I always much more liked talking and discussing with people. But lately I more and more noticed the problems with discussions. Because of the many different worldviews that are behind the words that are used in language. And as a result the problems in understanding what the other said. But also in making my own points clear.
Since I discovered blogging I found out that writing blogposts gives me the possibility to make my thoughts more clear. Which does not mean that they are clear to others yet. But it is going more easy, the more I write. And that is a lot lately. Although most just stays drafted because it does not make much sense.
But actually with the word writer I always much more think of someone who writes some sort of story, while that is not something that would be easy for me. I think I am a bit to pragmatic for that.
Writing a story requires the skills to draw a certain sphere with words. And not just trying to make words out of thoughts like I do.
.-= Annemieke´s last blog ..Patterns of Meaning that Develop over Time =-.
This is a good post, with one pet peeve I can’t left unsaid…
Writers of the world, can we PLEASE stop using the cliche “aspiring writer”? Puh-leeeeze? The only people who are aspiring to write are people who have never written a single word before. If you write, you are a writer. There’s no aspirations about it. So just call yourself a writer.
If you wanted to be more specific, I suppose you can say “aspiring *professional* writer,” but that’s clunky. Professional writer-in-training? Writing hobbyist with bigger plans?
I don’t want to detract from your main points, because this is a quality post. But surely we’re good enough with words that we can invent another term for “aspiring writer.”
Right?
I thought this was a very interesting comment. Never in my life I would have called myself a writer. I would never even call myself an aspiring writer. Because I really never even liked writing.
I always much more liked talking and discussing with people. But lately I more and more noticed the problems with discussions. Because of the many different worldviews that are behind the words that are used in language. And as a result the problems in understanding what the other said. But also in making my own points clear.
Since I discovered blogging I found out that writing blogposts gives me the possibility to make my thoughts more clear. Which does not mean that they are clear to others yet. But it is going more easy, the more I write. And that is a lot lately. Although most just stays drafted because it does not make much sense.
But actually with the word writer I always much more think of someone who writes some sort of story, while that is not something that would be easy for me. I think I am a bit to pragmatic for that.
Writing a story requires the skills to draw a certain sphere with words. And not just trying to make words out of thoughts like I do.
.-= Annemieke´s last blog ..Patterns of Meaning that Develop over Time =-.
Great stuff Amber. I find Point 7 most personally relevant.
I am forever putting nifty little word tricks into magazine features. When editing the drafts, these seem to hang on and hang on, until I realise they are for my amusement and not the good of the piece. Take all that stuff out and the whole thing feels more genuine.
AltitudeBranding.com is normally pretty sharp, but this is one of your best posts for a while. You’re obviously in the zone. Good for you!
.-= John Glynn´s last blog ..Classic Porsche Spa Track Day โ few spaces left! =-.
Great stuff Amber. I find Point 7 most personally relevant.
I am forever putting nifty little word tricks into magazine features. When editing the drafts, these seem to hang on and hang on, until I realise they are for my amusement and not the good of the piece. Take all that stuff out and the whole thing feels more genuine.
AltitudeBranding.com is normally pretty sharp, but this is one of your best posts for a while. You’re obviously in the zone. Good for you!
.-= John Glynn´s last blog ..Classic Porsche Spa Track Day โ few spaces left! =-.
Hey Amber – these are all really valuable guidelines for getting down to the business of writing. Particularly love #8. I’m discovering that much of my editing and writing process is really about stripping away the layers of ego from what I’m writing, and constantly bringing myself back to the questions of ‘what does my audience want/need?’ and ‘what is the kernel of information or benefit that this blog post brings?’ – and getting rid of all the stuff that doesn’t answer these questions. Thanks for the insights!
.-= Lucy Beer´s last blog ..Should You Worry About Your Bounce Rate? =-.
Hey Amber – these are all really valuable guidelines for getting down to the business of writing. Particularly love #8. I’m discovering that much of my editing and writing process is really about stripping away the layers of ego from what I’m writing, and constantly bringing myself back to the questions of ‘what does my audience want/need?’ and ‘what is the kernel of information or benefit that this blog post brings?’ – and getting rid of all the stuff that doesn’t answer these questions. Thanks for the insights!
.-= Lucy Beer´s last blog ..Should You Worry About Your Bounce Rate? =-.
Great article, Amber. I find one of my greatest challenges is the battle between my right brain (creative side) and my left brain (organized side) and how the affect my writing. My left side wants everything organized way out into the future. It wants 5 blog posts a week, organized into daily subject areas. Monday should be goal setting, Tuesday is productivity, Wednesday is Organization etc.
This always sounds so easy. So my left brain says… tell the world you’re going to do this… broadcast it… schedule it… then do it.
Unfortunately, my right brain isn’t so cooperative. It wants to write about new and exciting things. It wants spur of the moment posts, full of color and intrigue. It absolutely hates being relegated to a boring, cookie cutter linear box.
So the battle rages and the best laid plans end up being compromised by this ongoing title match in my head. My “want to’s” quickly become “have to’s” and my productivity grinds to a halt.
What I have found over the years is to find a middle ground, where each side of my gray matter can play. I schedule out three or four posts a week to satisfy my left brain, and vary the subject matter of each post to satisfy the right brain.
The bottom line: This compromise keeps me writing.
.-= John Richardson´s last blog ..Fascinating Test =-.
Great article, Amber. I find one of my greatest challenges is the battle between my right brain (creative side) and my left brain (organized side) and how the affect my writing. My left side wants everything organized way out into the future. It wants 5 blog posts a week, organized into daily subject areas. Monday should be goal setting, Tuesday is productivity, Wednesday is Organization etc.
This always sounds so easy. So my left brain says… tell the world you’re going to do this… broadcast it… schedule it… then do it.
Unfortunately, my right brain isn’t so cooperative. It wants to write about new and exciting things. It wants spur of the moment posts, full of color and intrigue. It absolutely hates being relegated to a boring, cookie cutter linear box.
So the battle rages and the best laid plans end up being compromised by this ongoing title match in my head. My “want to’s” quickly become “have to’s” and my productivity grinds to a halt.
What I have found over the years is to find a middle ground, where each side of my gray matter can play. I schedule out three or four posts a week to satisfy my left brain, and vary the subject matter of each post to satisfy the right brain.
The bottom line: This compromise keeps me writing.
.-= John Richardson´s last blog ..Fascinating Test =-.
Hi Amber,
Thanks for this post. I found point 6 resonated with me as I am using my blog as a vehicle towards writing a book. I have a rough content creation deadline at the end of this month and then I am into compilation, formatting and editing. This goal and deadline has certainly keep me motivated.
Adrian
.-= Adrian Swinscoe´s last blog ..Is Social Media and the Internet Making Bennisโ Predictions Come True? =-.
Hi Amber,
Thanks for this post. I found point 6 resonated with me as I am using my blog as a vehicle towards writing a book. I have a rough content creation deadline at the end of this month and then I am into compilation, formatting and editing. This goal and deadline has certainly keep me motivated.
Adrian
.-= Adrian Swinscoe´s last blog ..Is Social Media and the Internet Making Bennisโ Predictions Come True? =-.
Heh, I’ve been blogging since 2004 but don’t consider myself a blogger.
Rather, I have over a decade of paid and newspaper bylined professional writing experience and I carry forward my writer title to my blog — which is why if you click the link below you will see my blog is called AriWriter. ๐
.-= Ari Herzog´s last blog ..Online Politics Magazine Coming: Guess Its Name? =-.
Heh, I’ve been blogging since 2004 but don’t consider myself a blogger.
Rather, I have over a decade of paid and newspaper bylined professional writing experience and I carry forward my writer title to my blog — which is why if you click the link below you will see my blog is called AriWriter. ๐
.-= Ari Herzog´s last blog ..Online Politics Magazine Coming: Guess Its Name? =-.
My biggest issue is with setting up time.
The ideas are there, and the want to write is there, but the time is hard.
.-= John Paul Aguiar´s last blog ..Breaking Into The Top 20 Internet Marketers Online With No List =-.
My biggest issue is with setting up time.
The ideas are there, and the want to write is there, but the time is hard.
.-= John Paul Aguiar´s last blog ..Breaking Into The Top 20 Internet Marketers Online With No List =-.
Great post, Amber! It could not have come at a better time. I am facing a large writing project with a short deadline and have been caught in the dreaded writer’s block web. Thanks for getting me back on track (or for the proverbial kick in the arse as Beth said!)
Great post, Amber! It could not have come at a better time. I am facing a large writing project with a short deadline and have been caught in the dreaded writer’s block web. Thanks for getting me back on track (or for the proverbial kick in the arse as Beth said!)
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Tint
Thanks for your very informative article! Tips stated there just what i was looking for!
Tint
Thank you so much for this post. Everything you’ve said is so true. People don’t realize how hard it is to be a writer and the processes that we go through.
Thank you so much for this post. Everything you’ve said is so true. People don’t realize how hard it is to be a writer and the processes that we go through.
Thanks, Amber! Very helpful post. I also think you can’t underestimate your “quiet place.” It doesn’t matter where it is but if you have a routine and you have a quiet place where you go to write, the words seem to come out easier!
Also, love the self imposed blog deadline tip. Need to get on that!
.-= Kate´s last blog ..KnHall: Just discovered @powerpr, @cdandar and I waltzed out of @ReneeRouleau’s new prod. launch without the new product!! #bummer =-.
Thanks, Amber! Very helpful post. I also think you can’t underestimate your “quiet place.” It doesn’t matter where it is but if you have a routine and you have a quiet place where you go to write, the words seem to come out easier!
Also, love the self imposed blog deadline tip. Need to get on that!
.-= Kate´s last blog ..KnHall: Just discovered @powerpr, @cdandar and I waltzed out of @ReneeRouleau’s new prod. launch without the new product!! #bummer =-.
Amber,
I have great respect and admiration for writers especially after I started blogging and realize just how hard it is! You’ve hit everything point that’s important to become a real writer. #2 especially is key I believe for starters, Practice the Discipline is the only way to get better.
And I’ve learned that reading other people’s writing as a prosumer (producer + consumer) is part of the writing process as well, thanks for the reminder and the motivated post.
Amber,
I have great respect and admiration for writers especially after I started blogging and realize just how hard it is! You’ve hit everything point that’s important to become a real writer. #2 especially is key I believe for starters, Practice the Discipline is the only way to get better.
And I’ve learned that reading other people’s writing as a prosumer (producer + consumer) is part of the writing process as well, thanks for the reminder and the motivated post.
Great Post…Love it Amber-Read,Read,If you want to become a writer-keep reading and learn from the masters…
.-= Vince considine´s last blog ..By: VINCE CONSIDINE =-.
Great Post…Love it Amber-Read,Read,If you want to become a writer-keep reading and learn from the masters…
.-= Vince considine´s last blog ..By: VINCE CONSIDINE =-.
Right On, Amber! Your tactics are clear, concise and on-point. I am tickled pink to know your thoughts on correct spelling and grammatical worthiness (point #7). Far too often I read blogs or article posts that misuse proper sentence structure and would send SpellCheck running for the hills.
Intentional slang or clever use of commentary phrasing makes for great personal connection when sprinkled in from time to time, but continued misuse of language in general tends to throw up red-flags of a self-imposed ‘author’ status claim.
.-= Sandy Spadaro´s last blog ..Has Book Reviewing Become a Female Dominated Industry? =-.
Right On, Amber! Your tactics are clear, concise and on-point. I am tickled pink to know your thoughts on correct spelling and grammatical worthiness (point #7). Far too often I read blogs or article posts that misuse proper sentence structure and would send SpellCheck running for the hills.
Intentional slang or clever use of commentary phrasing makes for great personal connection when sprinkled in from time to time, but continued misuse of language in general tends to throw up red-flags of a self-imposed ‘author’ status claim.
.-= Sandy Spadaro´s last blog ..Has Book Reviewing Become a Female Dominated Industry? =-.
I can attest to your fourth point, for sure! It’s so much easier for me to write when I feel that overwhelming urge to get all of my thoughts out. When inspiration strikes, sometimes my initial ideas spawn other ideas so quickly that they bottleneck in my brain and I have to resort to jotting down all of the potential titles before they flee forever. If only all days could bring that many options, right?
It’s blogs like this that get me motivated to dust off the ol’ saddle and get back on (as you put it), so thank you for that! ๐
Hey Amber,
This is a great post!! You have some great tips on here for a new writer like myself.. I’m just getting the hang of blogging, but everyday I write about something or nothing ๐ I don’t have a specific time of day to write, but I have to write at least 500 words before bed;I’m may increase the word amount later. I like the point you make about stockpiling words… I do that but sometime I have to stop, my 3 year old is very demanding lol!! Anyway thanks for the motivation, it’s greatly appreciated.
Thanks for your motivational tips, Amber!
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