Have you gotten this in your inbox, or uttered this open ended phrase?

“I’d like to find more ways to partner/collaborate/work together (insert your variation here)”

Most of us that work for successful or visible businesses get this a lot, or if you’re a successful individual, you might get it a lot too. However, it’s likely that your target doesn’t have time to simply muse on how they can help grow your business. And let’s face it, many people approaching companies that way are looking for exactly that. They’re saying “I’d like to find out how I can get in your good graces so that you’ll send business our way.”

As my friend Matt was helpful in pointing out as I was drafting this post, most proposals like this are impacted by the source and direction of the request. If you’re a smaller business or individual hoping to gain some steam by partnering with a person or business that has a lot of leverage, momentum, or potential, the burden is on you to create the business case for consideration.

But no matter who you are, if you really want to propose a more collaborative and mutually beneficial working relationship, you’ll approach the conversation like this.

1. Do your research, and get an email address.

Twitter DMs are a lousy way to try and do business, as convenient as they are. Our email addresses are all over the web these days. Take a few minutes to try and find one, or at the very least, use the DM approach to *ask* for an email and have a substantive conversation that way.

Like it or not, most business can be initiated on social networks, but it’s often closed over email.

Also: resist the urge to insist on an “introductory phone call”. People whose time is in constant demand will resist that with every fiber of their being, because phone calls without clear purpose or immediately obvious, earth-moving benefit are perceived as the ultimate time-waster, and we certainly don’t want to take time to hear a pitch this way. A well-thought email really is your best bet, and a phone call later can be a follow up, if warranted.

2. Articulate *exactly* what you’re proposing.

Open-ended “we should partner” means little, especially if your contact knows little about you (and your website link doesn’t give them enough information, I promise). If you’re the one reaching out and proposing that you work together, they’ll want to know:

  • What you’re asking of them or their company, specifically, in terms of time, monetary, or referral commitments, or;
  • If you have an untraditional or innovative idea that requires other or more than the above, state it plainly.
  • What value you believe their business or network bring to the relationship
  • What you bring to the table and are willing to commit in return
  • Who your customer base is, and your demonstrated understanding of how that compliments theirs
  • A *brief* summary of your business, product, or offering.

Be concise. It’s easier to respond definitively if someone understands what you’re proposing. It’s unlikely that an open-ended brainstorming session of how you *might* work together is an efficient start, so do the work ahead of time to actually propose something concrete. If you don’t know what you want, you have research and work to do before you propose something. Put yourself in the shoes of the person you’re approaching, and ask yourself what information you’d need in order to make a considered decision, or at least be willing to take the conversation a step further.

3. Respect official channels.

There may be definitive programs in place for certain types of partners within businesses, and a due diligence or vetting process in place for those.

Respect them, and resist the urge to press for an end-run. If you have an established relationship with a stakeholder in the company, this becomes an easier conversation, but you should still demonstrate your willingness to be part of whatever processes and programs are already in place. If your relationship is a positive one, that person will likely advocate for you internally, or offer to help streamline or shortcut the process if they see value in what you’re proposing.

If you don’t already have an existing relationship, realize that you’ll have to establish a level of trust and credibility as a baseline for your partnership proposal to be considered. Which brings me to….

4. Understand the true benefit in partnerships.

Partnerships and collaboration imply mutual benefit.

Simply offering something as vague as “exposure” to your customer base isn’t substantive enough – unless you’re, say, Apple or Google – for an executive to build a business case around committing time and resources to working with you on things outside of our existing business priorities. Even if you *are* a big dog, they need to understand not just what you’re asking of them, but what advantage partnering with you brings. Is it scale? Filling a gap in expertise? Packaging products and services in a new way or to a new audience?

People also would love to know – honestly and specifically – what you’re hoping to derive from the relationship. Leads? Exposure to their customer base? Joint marketing, content creation, or other time- and resource-heavy commitments that you can’t take on alone? Access to their product or service on some kind of insider basis? Be clear. They know you’re in it for something, and if you’re confident about the benefits you bring, you should also be forthright enough to state your own intentions.

Partnerships Can Be Awesome.

There’s no question that business partnerships can be absolutely advantageous, and allow companies to scale, innovate, and do things that they simply couldn’t do alone. Most people – myself included – are open minded and interested in possibilities, because we want to make our own businesses as successful as possible. Collaboration and partnership are a compelling way to do that, and I’m a big fan.

But if what you’re looking for is merely a leg up or to leverage our business to propel yours, that’s not a partnership. There are times and places for that, too. But call a spade a spade and know what you’re asking for.

So. Are you a collaboration seeker, and are you making progress with your approach? Are you getting requests like this, and what’s working or not working for you when you get them?

I’d love to talk more with you in the comments.