Tell me how many times you’ve seen one of these statements:
- Social media needs less talk and more action.
- We need better case studies.
- Businesses (or People) need to be more human.
- We need less pundits and more practical examples.
- We need to do more good with the tools we have.
- It’s about the HOW today, not the WHY.
- Social media folks need to do more and talk less.
It’s the emerging contrarian pushback to the oh-so-fluffy days of social media punditry, “evangelism” and kumbaya, and I get it.
Sort of.
Yes, we’ve come beyond the “oooooh pretty” phase of social media. Maybe there are lots of folks who are still doing it wrong. And some of us are determined to show just how much more “serious” we are about it than the next guy, so we’re pushing back on all the people who aren’t living up to our social media activist ideals.
But here’s the thing.
When I ask you what you mean by “better case studies”, you’d better be able to tell me exactly what constitutes a good one, or a bad one, and how you’d recommend others improve theirs. Otherwise, you’ve no room to criticize.
If you’re asking for a person or business to be more human, you’d better be able to illustrate an example of what a “human” presence looks like, and explain why it works better than the alternative, in terms that acknowledge your personal tastes and biases for how you use social networks. (Remember this is all opt-in. Choose your path, and shape your own experience.)
A lot of the talk (read: content) that’s out there is people doing their best to work through ideas, settle into and participate in their communities in their own way, figure out what works and what doesn’t, provide examples of what they’re doing and teach or share.
So while I agree that we need to continue to do as much as we talk, I also think we need to lighten up a bit.
Punditry has it’s place. I learn a lot from thinking, pontificating, looking at ideas from different lenses. Talking things through. Doing my own thinking around someone else’s ideas. It’s how I shape perspectives and approach, and always keep a fresh eye on ways to look at things that are outside my practical, hands-on experience. But that’s me.
So here’s my challenge: if you want to demand that more people lead social media excellence by demonstration, be prepared to articulate what constitutes your good examples, devoid of jargon of your own in order to rail against the jargon you don’t like. Instead, I’m asking you (us) to:
- Be specific about what you want to see happen, in clear and simple terms.
- Explain why you think that outcome is better than the alternative(s) and what it achieves.
- Consider your own biases, even if you don’t verbalize them.
- Break down your generalizations (“everyone”, “always”) into focused characteristics of what you think works and doesn’t work, in a specific context.
- Illustrate the alternative actions and behaviors you want to see.
Otherwise? We’re just empty critics that can’t offer constructive solutions or ideas. Which means we’ve contributed exactly zero toward creating the change we so demand. And we’ve become the actionless talkers that we’re so mightily raging against.
Great examples of challengers that provide substance to their arguments? Geoff Livingston. Justin Kownacki. Chris Penn. Lisa Barone. See how they write about what’s not working for them, but clearly talk about what they’d like to see instead and why?
Perhaps it’s just part of the lifecycle of new things we’re exploring: we love it, then we resist and criticize it, maybe even hate it, then we settle for temperance somewhere in the middle.
But I think we can do a better job of backing up our objections with some articulate thoughts that light the path forward. And I hope you’ll keep me held to that standard, too.
What do you say?
Amber,
You’re right. I’m just getting into Social Media–have been for a few months now–and I’ve been overwhelmed by the echoing criticism. (i.e. Mashable decides it doesn’t like a new feature, then Twittersphere doesn’t like the feature, then twittering contingents break off and state that they don’t like that Mashable doesn’t like the new feature, but never propose what they would like instead. Whoo, that was a long parenthetical.
Than)
I think that we see so much base criticism because criticism is easy and is expected. The people you mentioned above, Geoff, Justin, Chris, and Lisa, are such a pleasure to read because they do turn problems over in their respective heads, examining from different angles, and then weigh in, not just comment. With the exception of blogging, our Social Media platforms encourage us to post small, self contained commentary without putting too much thought into each post.
Just a few scattered thoughts . . . have to give me a few more days to get all my thoughts together. 🙂 Thanks for the thought-provocation.
Amber,
You’re right. I’m just getting into Social Media–have been for a few months now–and I’ve been overwhelmed by the echoing criticism. (i.e. Mashable decides it doesn’t like a new feature, then Twittersphere doesn’t like the feature, then twittering contingents break off and state that they don’t like that Mashable doesn’t like the new feature, but never propose what they would like instead. Whoo, that was a long parenthetical.
Than)
I think that we see so much base criticism because criticism is easy and is expected. The people you mentioned above, Geoff, Justin, Chris, and Lisa, are such a pleasure to read because they do turn problems over in their respective heads, examining from different angles, and then weigh in, not just comment. With the exception of blogging, our Social Media platforms encourage us to post small, self contained commentary without putting too much thought into each post.
Just a few scattered thoughts . . . have to give me a few more days to get all my thoughts together. 🙂 Thanks for the thought-provocation.
Amber,
Nice application of the difference between criticism and cynicism. One offers solutions; the others offer a rant.
I’ve often found that constructive criticism helps propel the best ideas forward, making them a little bit better along the way.
Best,
Rich
.-= Richard Becker´s last blog ..Selling Cars: Transparency Helps, Except Toyota =-.
Amber,
Nice application of the difference between criticism and cynicism. One offers solutions; the others offer a rant.
I’ve often found that constructive criticism helps propel the best ideas forward, making them a little bit better along the way.
Best,
Rich
.-= Richard Becker´s last blog ..Selling Cars: Transparency Helps, Except Toyota =-.
I agree, and I think it’s true with many other things. For example, some people are critical about the government – all they do is criticize and generalize, which is easy to do if they just want to fit in.
.-= Tak Hikichi´s last blog ..Just to Make That ONE Play =-.
I agree, and I think it’s true with many other things. For example, some people are critical about the government – all they do is criticize and generalize, which is easy to do if they just want to fit in.
.-= Tak Hikichi´s last blog ..Just to Make That ONE Play =-.
Love it. Great post.
Love it. Great post.
Amber,
Couldn’t agree more. One of the reasons I read blogs on social media is for the different viewpoints on who’s doing it right, who’s doing it wrong (That Brogan dude is ALWAYS doing it wrong, of course) and the ability to look at things from different angles. That’s how people learn – by challenging what we thought was true and being shown a different way. I wrote on Outspoken Media last week about Why You Should Embrace Public Criticism and it’s a very similar concept. If we’re not questioning things, we’re not learning anything. Social media has enough blind followers. Presenting a different view doesn’t make you a “ranter” or “looking for attention”. There’s merit there.
Great post and thanks for including me in some awesome company.
Lisa 🙂
.-= Lisa Barone´s last blog ..By: Web Communities, Rainbows & Butterflies =-.
Amber,
Couldn’t agree more. One of the reasons I read blogs on social media is for the different viewpoints on who’s doing it right, who’s doing it wrong (That Brogan dude is ALWAYS doing it wrong, of course) and the ability to look at things from different angles. That’s how people learn – by challenging what we thought was true and being shown a different way. I wrote on Outspoken Media last week about Why You Should Embrace Public Criticism and it’s a very similar concept. If we’re not questioning things, we’re not learning anything. Social media has enough blind followers. Presenting a different view doesn’t make you a “ranter” or “looking for attention”. There’s merit there.
Great post and thanks for including me in some awesome company.
Lisa 🙂
.-= Lisa Barone´s last blog ..By: Web Communities, Rainbows & Butterflies =-.
Amber
The quest to “be” in social media has taken over. The need for attention and popularity has brought this on. If someone says they like something and that becomes popular then everyone agrees and the one or few that disagree becomes the unpopular one. Instead of embracing the difference of opinion and seeing a different standpoint and learning something, people ignore that to be popular. This me too is maddening. Lisa Barone writes and says what she feels with very well written arguments and substance to support her opinion. Even those that disagree with her walk away with clear reasons why she feels the way that she does.
If people stopped trying to be popular and started expressing their opinion as to what they like do not like and what they would like see the direction of SM would change. People get so afraid of being what feels like the only one who feels a certain way or wants to see more from people. A webinar that is hosted by Radian6 or a conference that you speak at, we walk away with something as the content is presented in a manner that is not like all the rest. I want to see who is doing it right and wrong and why they are. I just hope enough people will start coming out and say what they feel instead of “oh this is great” when really it sucks and was a waste of my time.
.-= Suzanne Vara´s last blog ..How to Brand your Brand =-.
Amber
The quest to “be” in social media has taken over. The need for attention and popularity has brought this on. If someone says they like something and that becomes popular then everyone agrees and the one or few that disagree becomes the unpopular one. Instead of embracing the difference of opinion and seeing a different standpoint and learning something, people ignore that to be popular. This me too is maddening. Lisa Barone writes and says what she feels with very well written arguments and substance to support her opinion. Even those that disagree with her walk away with clear reasons why she feels the way that she does.
If people stopped trying to be popular and started expressing their opinion as to what they like do not like and what they would like see the direction of SM would change. People get so afraid of being what feels like the only one who feels a certain way or wants to see more from people. A webinar that is hosted by Radian6 or a conference that you speak at, we walk away with something as the content is presented in a manner that is not like all the rest. I want to see who is doing it right and wrong and why they are. I just hope enough people will start coming out and say what they feel instead of “oh this is great” when really it sucks and was a waste of my time.
.-= Suzanne Vara´s last blog ..How to Brand your Brand =-.
Thank you for writing this post. You have put into words my exact feelings on this issue. My pet peeve is when people complain, but don’t offer up any clarity on ways to improve. I have a friend who complains about the “Social Media 101-level same old stuff” and yet, I don’t see him coming up with anything new to present.
.-= KiKi L’Italien´s last blog .. =-.
Thank you for writing this post. You have put into words my exact feelings on this issue. My pet peeve is when people complain, but don’t offer up any clarity on ways to improve. I have a friend who complains about the “Social Media 101-level same old stuff” and yet, I don’t see him coming up with anything new to present.
.-= KiKi L’Italien´s last blog .. =-.
Amber, I think you’re totally getting it wrong. I absolutely hate posts like this. I can’t tell you exactly what to do differently, though. 🙂
.-= Jordan Cooper´s last blog ..Third Tribe Review Part 1 – Why Price Point Doesn’t Matter =-.
Amber, I think you’re totally getting it wrong. I absolutely hate posts like this. I can’t tell you exactly what to do differently, though. 🙂
.-= Jordan Cooper´s last blog ..Third Tribe Review Part 1 – Why Price Point Doesn’t Matter =-.
Amber-
You know I love and respect you and your viewpoints, and you make valid points here obviously. I guess where my frustration (that may have prompted this post, at least in part) lies is that so many of us (and certainly I’m occasionally guilty of it as well) talk about this stuff “from on high” when we fall prey to the same traps that we warn against: talking mostly about ourselves and “what we think about event xyz”, having a limited focus to our communications, not focusing on and empowering our community.
For me, being such a heavy user of digital communications from my early days on BBSs, the concept of “asking for a person or business to be more human” is a confusing one. Asking for a person to be human? We are human. We interact as humans every day. The medium in which we interact is secondary to the quality of connection. You called me out on this yesterday, and the reason I was not able to be more succinct in my definition is that “what does it mean to be human” is hardly a small question. Much like pornography, we know it when we see it.
Part of what I value in people I choose to interact with digitally (be it via Twitter, reading their blog, IM-ing, quoting them in an email to other people) is that I am not treated as an audience for their ego. MySpace, for all their other failings, had it right when they defined themselves as “a place for friends”
I have been guilty of lacking balance in my Twitter stream, which can lead to my own emotional outbursts about it, and re-structuring (read: unfollowing a bunch of people) usually restores it, but why not have the discussion in public to maybe bring some awareness to some of our behaviors.
I think it would serve us all well to take a look at our own presences on the sites we recommend and see whether we are taking our own advice, and what another person AND a prospective client would think of us based on them. If you were to meet you at a cocktail party (a real one, not a social media one), would you have anything to talk about other than “so, what’s the deal with Kevin Smith and Southwest Airlines?”
Something to consider.
.-= Jeremy Meyers´s last blog ..The difference between wanting help and being ready to accept help =-.
Amber-
You know I love and respect you and your viewpoints, and you make valid points here obviously. I guess where my frustration (that may have prompted this post, at least in part) lies is that so many of us (and certainly I’m occasionally guilty of it as well) talk about this stuff “from on high” when we fall prey to the same traps that we warn against: talking mostly about ourselves and “what we think about event xyz”, having a limited focus to our communications, not focusing on and empowering our community.
For me, being such a heavy user of digital communications from my early days on BBSs, the concept of “asking for a person or business to be more human” is a confusing one. Asking for a person to be human? We are human. We interact as humans every day. The medium in which we interact is secondary to the quality of connection. You called me out on this yesterday, and the reason I was not able to be more succinct in my definition is that “what does it mean to be human” is hardly a small question. Much like pornography, we know it when we see it.
Part of what I value in people I choose to interact with digitally (be it via Twitter, reading their blog, IM-ing, quoting them in an email to other people) is that I am not treated as an audience for their ego. MySpace, for all their other failings, had it right when they defined themselves as “a place for friends”
I have been guilty of lacking balance in my Twitter stream, which can lead to my own emotional outbursts about it, and re-structuring (read: unfollowing a bunch of people) usually restores it, but why not have the discussion in public to maybe bring some awareness to some of our behaviors.
I think it would serve us all well to take a look at our own presences on the sites we recommend and see whether we are taking our own advice, and what another person AND a prospective client would think of us based on them. If you were to meet you at a cocktail party (a real one, not a social media one), would you have anything to talk about other than “so, what’s the deal with Kevin Smith and Southwest Airlines?”
Something to consider.
.-= Jeremy Meyers´s last blog ..The difference between wanting help and being ready to accept help =-.
Amber,
It could be that it’s part of a life cycle per se, but I also suspsect it’s part of the “social media group think.” That comfort zone that developed which affectionately became the “social media fishbowl” still skews our thoughts.
It’s difficult to propose alternatives to something that’s not working when you’ve never really faced a similar scale problem or decision yourself. It’s much easier to take on the call of the crowd. We see the same behavior in other areas where folks who don’t know the details or haven’t gathered enough experience still want to participate. They pick up the words of the leaders they admire, but find it hard to take the ideas further than what they’ve heard.
As the social web expands with more and more viewpoint and as the virtual world becomes more of the mainstream, we’ll incorporate more ideas and more diversity. I sure hope anyway.
.-= Liz Strauss´s last blog ..Will Your Brand Survive the Culture Shock and Thrive on the Social Web? =-.
Amber,
It could be that it’s part of a life cycle per se, but I also suspsect it’s part of the “social media group think.” That comfort zone that developed which affectionately became the “social media fishbowl” still skews our thoughts.
It’s difficult to propose alternatives to something that’s not working when you’ve never really faced a similar scale problem or decision yourself. It’s much easier to take on the call of the crowd. We see the same behavior in other areas where folks who don’t know the details or haven’t gathered enough experience still want to participate. They pick up the words of the leaders they admire, but find it hard to take the ideas further than what they’ve heard.
As the social web expands with more and more viewpoint and as the virtual world becomes more of the mainstream, we’ll incorporate more ideas and more diversity. I sure hope anyway.
.-= Liz Strauss´s last blog ..Will Your Brand Survive the Culture Shock and Thrive on the Social Web? =-.
I didn’t do it!
Seriously, I really agree with this article. I’ve actually tried to stop raising issues as much and simply focus my activity on stronger actions. I still raise issues when things get out of hand, but I prefer to lead by example… I think it’s a more powerful statement.
.-= Geoff Livingston´s last blog ..Six Things To Change In Buzz =-.
I didn’t do it!
Seriously, I really agree with this article. I’ve actually tried to stop raising issues as much and simply focus my activity on stronger actions. I still raise issues when things get out of hand, but I prefer to lead by example… I think it’s a more powerful statement.
.-= Geoff Livingston´s last blog ..Six Things To Change In Buzz =-.
Amber! Thanks for posting this! While looking for a blog topic myself this morning, my daughter came over and wanted to dance to the ‘Brainstorming’ song by the Imagination Movers. “There’s no bad ideas when you’re brainstorming,” they sing. I was encouraging, and so was your post.
Sometimes I try to hard to find something that others will find valuable to blog/comment on that I intimidate myself right out of saying anything at all. It’s from reading too many blogs, sure, but also taking to heart the critism on all the new social media ‘so-called-experts’ out there.
It’s important to keep encouraging and helping each other, and you said it perfectly…if you don’t like the way something is be said, state particularly why you feel that way and what can be done to make it better.
We’re all here to do our best.
Amber! Thanks for posting this! While looking for a blog topic myself this morning, my daughter came over and wanted to dance to the ‘Brainstorming’ song by the Imagination Movers. “There’s no bad ideas when you’re brainstorming,” they sing. I was encouraging, and so was your post.
Sometimes I try to hard to find something that others will find valuable to blog/comment on that I intimidate myself right out of saying anything at all. It’s from reading too many blogs, sure, but also taking to heart the critism on all the new social media ‘so-called-experts’ out there.
It’s important to keep encouraging and helping each other, and you said it perfectly…if you don’t like the way something is be said, state particularly why you feel that way and what can be done to make it better.
We’re all here to do our best.
Hi Amber,
Thanks for constantly provoking and inspiring ideas. I think you are completely right, we should hold ourselves to a higher standard before whining and finger pointing .
IMO, being a contrarian has always been hip in the blogosphere, it’s a hereditary trademark from journalism. Controversial blogs attract more people’s attention, it is one of the fastest ways to stand out. Pundits do it, gain traction, the rest of us follow suit because it works. However, with that said, we do need to step out of the echo chamber , at least sometimes.
Lastly, a “problem” without a proposed solution or improvement is simply a compliant. Your bullet points nicely summarize the pitfalls we often fall into. I’ll definitely keep them in mind =)
Cheers,
y
.-= Yuki Chow´s last blog ..10 reasons why I recommend HootSuite to businesses =-.
Hi Amber,
Thanks for constantly provoking and inspiring ideas. I think you are completely right, we should hold ourselves to a higher standard before whining and finger pointing .
IMO, being a contrarian has always been hip in the blogosphere, it’s a hereditary trademark from journalism. Controversial blogs attract more people’s attention, it is one of the fastest ways to stand out. Pundits do it, gain traction, the rest of us follow suit because it works. However, with that said, we do need to step out of the echo chamber , at least sometimes.
Lastly, a “problem” without a proposed solution or improvement is simply a compliant. Your bullet points nicely summarize the pitfalls we often fall into. I’ll definitely keep them in mind =)
Cheers,
y
.-= Yuki Chow´s last blog ..10 reasons why I recommend HootSuite to businesses =-.
Looking at things through an objective lens is probably the best way to go. I feel like I have adopted a similar technique as you have. I think the best thing to keep in mind though is that in some (not all) cases a less human approach does actually work. The most important piece to remember is that you have to know how to speak to your audience, and if that audience is nothing more than a casual user who is looking to be sold… than that is what is going to work best for you. Adaptablity is the name of the game here, and using varied approaches on a client/community specific basis is what is going to ensure long term success. But if that isn’t the case and a company does need to change it’s approach, taking a transitional period to do so should be explored, otherwise the brand risks looking schizophrenic.
Looking at things through an objective lens is probably the best way to go. I feel like I have adopted a similar technique as you have. I think the best thing to keep in mind though is that in some (not all) cases a less human approach does actually work. The most important piece to remember is that you have to know how to speak to your audience, and if that audience is nothing more than a casual user who is looking to be sold… than that is what is going to work best for you. Adaptablity is the name of the game here, and using varied approaches on a client/community specific basis is what is going to ensure long term success. But if that isn’t the case and a company does need to change it’s approach, taking a transitional period to do so should be explored, otherwise the brand risks looking schizophrenic.
Ahhh, contrarianism. Looks like social media is growing up! Lol, seriously though… you make some valid points in this post (namely your main one). This is why I don’t complain about the lack of social media excellence out there right now… I’m not even sure what I’d want!
Thanks for making people actually think before speaking,
Garrett
.-= Garrett Miller´s last blog ..Twitter – Autoresponder (Web) 2.0 =-.
Ahhh, contrarianism. Looks like social media is growing up! Lol, seriously though… you make some valid points in this post (namely your main one). This is why I don’t complain about the lack of social media excellence out there right now… I’m not even sure what I’d want!
Thanks for making people actually think before speaking,
Garrett
.-= Garrett Miller´s last blog ..Twitter – Autoresponder (Web) 2.0 =-.
Amber,
Clarity adds focus to whatever point you wish to make. When focusing it’s easier to lend a constructive, tangible example of whatever argument you’d like to pose.
So as you stated, you think before you act. Pondering, reflecting, anaylyzing. Yes, this is contrarianism 😉
Thanks for sharing your insight.
.-= Ryan´s last blog ..What Does A Cash Gifting Club Offer You? =-.
Amber,
Clarity adds focus to whatever point you wish to make. When focusing it’s easier to lend a constructive, tangible example of whatever argument you’d like to pose.
So as you stated, you think before you act. Pondering, reflecting, anaylyzing. Yes, this is contrarianism 😉
Thanks for sharing your insight.
.-= Ryan´s last blog ..What Does A Cash Gifting Club Offer You? =-.
You’re right Amber, the echo chamber can be deafening. All we can do it use ourselves as a compass, have our opinions and state our cases as clearly and forthrightly as possible. It does seem a little ‘me too’ right now. Over time networks will become smaller and more specific and the larger crowd appeal aspect of the space will diminish. But yes, it’s early days and mainstream adoption is still underway. thanks for keeping us honest, Simon
You’re right Amber, the echo chamber can be deafening. All we can do it use ourselves as a compass, have our opinions and state our cases as clearly and forthrightly as possible. It does seem a little ‘me too’ right now. Over time networks will become smaller and more specific and the larger crowd appeal aspect of the space will diminish. But yes, it’s early days and mainstream adoption is still underway. thanks for keeping us honest, Simon
Shit. If this critical trend keeps up, I’ll be forced to become a social media cheerleader in order to maintain my contrarian viewpoint…
I disagree with your “overheard” bullet point stating “it’s more about the HOW today, not the WHY.” From my perspective, all anyone EVER talks about is “how” to do things; WHY we do them almost never seems to be investigated — mostly because people are reluctant to question their own goals and processes.
Yes, we who believe we have the answers must lead by example. Often, that means we must lead *with* examples. More substance, less shrink-wrap.
.-= Justin Kownacki´s last blog ..5 Unorthodox Ways to Fix Social Media =-.
Shit. If this critical trend keeps up, I’ll be forced to become a social media cheerleader in order to maintain my contrarian viewpoint…
I disagree with your “overheard” bullet point stating “it’s more about the HOW today, not the WHY.” From my perspective, all anyone EVER talks about is “how” to do things; WHY we do them almost never seems to be investigated — mostly because people are reluctant to question their own goals and processes.
Yes, we who believe we have the answers must lead by example. Often, that means we must lead *with* examples. More substance, less shrink-wrap.
.-= Justin Kownacki´s last blog ..5 Unorthodox Ways to Fix Social Media =-.