Brass Tack Thinking - The Unknown PathIn the last few weeks, I’ve made some pretty massive professional changes.

I left my VP of Social Strategy job at Radian6, a successful post I’ve held for the last few years. And over the last week, my business partner, Matt Ridings, and I shared that we’d be launching a new social business venture together in the new year.

I’ve actually been really surprised by how many times I’ve gotten some variation on this question (mostly in private):

“Why would you leave a stable job with a good company at a time like this?”

Like this? Like what?

Do you mean in this kind of economic climate? In the current state of the social business industry? Do you mean because I’m a single mom of a preschooler with a mortgage and all that kind of stuff?

I imagine many of them don’t mean to criticize, but really rather to understand something that might be overly risky to them. The way I look at it is this.

As far as I know, I get one spin on this rock. There is always something you can point to that will illustrate that it’s not the “right” time to do something risky. There are always obstacles or challenges or what ifs, and as far as my career goes, no one is going to hand me the chance to do something amazing, I have to earn it (and grab it when it shows up). There are also a few things that I’m determined to be able to say when my spin ends, whether that be tomorrow or several decades from now.

I faced fear when it mattered.

Uncertainty is absolutely everywhere. So is risk and the possibility of failure. And a “day job” and a steady paycheck for the moment is no guarantee of a damned thing. We make that assumption all the time until the next person to be “downsized” is us. And we thought we were indispensable.

I’ve had my own share of derailments, devastating experiences, and unknowns, both professionally and certainly personally. I quit an old job once without any kind of a safety net, simply because it felt like the right thing to do (I don’t recommend this approach for everyone, but it sure taught me a lot).

And while I’m only human, facing what scares me is something that reminds me I’m alive and more resilient than I give myself credit for. I never want to look back and say “I didn’t do that – even though I wanted to – because I was afraid”. Some fears I’ll avoid simply because I’ve no desire to see what’s on the other side (there’s no part of me that wants to conquer rock climbing without ropes. Really, there isn’t.).

But the stuff I want so badly I can taste it? The things I dream of chasing and want to feel myself doing? I don’t want to do anything but flinch forward when they present themselves.

I grabbed hold of opportunity. Or, I made it for myself.

Opportunity sometimes knocks you upside the head. Other times it whispers, taunts you a bit. In either case, you often have to shut up long enough to hear it. I believe in something right now, that Matt and I have an opportunity to really make an impact in the business world. To find professional success for ourselves, but also to provide something that’s truly of value to the companies we work with. I believe our industry is important. I believe we’re good at what we do. I believe that there’s a chance for us to make a difference in one way now, and with success, in innumerable ways beyond what we can imagine at the moment.

I don’t want to sit and wait for someone else to create opportunity for me. I don’t want to bitch about all the chances I don’t have because of someone else or some obstacle that’s in front of me. I don’t want to be the victim of circumstance or someone else’s plans.

I want to make my own. And if that means I go down in a crazy, flaming ball of failure, that’s okay by me. At least it was on my own terms.

I’m building a legacy, not a series of jobs.

My job doesn’t define me. My pursuit of a purposeful career might, in part, but my job doesn’t.

That means that leaving one “job” in favor of building and creating something is about pursuing a purpose and creating a legacy more than it is making a living or earning a paycheck. I’d work at Starbucks or Target or the grocery store if I needed to in order to make ends meet (and I’ve made peace with that both times I’ve left the working world to start a business). It’s like Pam Slim says: I’m creating a body of work. There may be a lot of weird pieces to that, some of which seem utterly disconnected. But it all weaves together to create a professional fabric that I can take a great deal of pride in. And I daresay taking a few chances has had more than its share of positive impact on my personal side, too.

I believe I can always find a way to make ends meet. I truly do. If that’s not the factor holding me, than something else had better be or I’m out of excuses.

I want my daughter to take chances for herself, too.

My daughter is four and a half, going on sixteen.

As my friend Kat said so eloquently in a comment the other day, I don’t want to orchestrate an outcome, I want to raise a human being. I was blessed with parents who instilled in me not just the idea that I could “be anything”, but actually stood by me when that pursuit led me straight into a brick wall or smack into heartbreak.

I want my daughter to see me take chances. I want her to see me fail. I want her to see me succeed brilliantly. I want her to see the entire canvas and know that it wasn’t painted with a single brush. She’s an amazing little person already, and the only things I wish for her are to grow up as a decent, kind person (she’s already well on her way), and to know that life is about the choices you didn’t make, the chances you took, and how you respond to the outcomes. I want her to live without regrets, and with belief that she can create a path for herself woven from experiences she embraces and decisions she makes, for better or worse.

My Path, Not Yours

My path is mine and no one else’s. The choices I make may not make you comfortable, for a million reasons. Your circumstances, characteristics, opportunities aren’t mine, nor mine yours. So the point here isn’t to be prescriptive, and tell you that you ought to do things this way because they’re better than the way you’re doing things. Just like the point isn’t for others to judge my decisions by using a lot of “should” and “need to” statements (though they sure do).

The point is instead to share a bit about my own reasons, since a lot of people seemed to be curious. Stuff to consider, I guess. Maybe they connect with you too. If not, please by all means carve your path based on what you believe, want, and can do.

Our choices, decisions, and perspectives are a mosaic of the things we’ve observed and experienced, from the mundane to the profound. We stitch all of those pictures and possibilities together into something that we think resembles a path we’d like to walk, even if we can’t always see where it leads. And so we do. Sometimes it works. Sometimes it’s a mess. Either way, it’s life, in all its imperfect glory.

And I intend to live mine out loud.